Hi Theburstbubble, lovely to have you here! When the bubble burst you never need to get trapped inside another one!
It really does take time to get the brain rewired after being a JW but eventually the old proddings fade away and you can be true to yourself and your immediate family.
I found it surprising how very good friends shunned me after leaving but then if their friendship was conditional on the imagined requirements of an invisible sky god, I'm sorry for them... but there are plenty of happy sensible contented non JWs out there who are good company.
Hope it goes well with you and husband in the beautiful real world.